We’re always grateful for love, though at the time it appears we may not appreciate it. Over time the experiences of kindness, compassion, empathy, and intimacy is a mix that most people find exhilarating. So we search for love, looking outside of ourselves for it … then we are surprised that love seems to elude us. Why can’t I,” people say, “find love?” I believe love is a mirror. To give love, and to receive love, you first have to love yourself.