Here we are at Valentine’s Day. The day of love. Ah, the day the poets and card and candy companies go crazy for love.
Here are some of my thoughts and advice based on insights gained from oh, so many readings given to those with questions about love. (A majority of my readings deal with the questions: “Does he/she love me?” “Will I ever know love?” “How long do I have to wait until I meet my love?” “How will I know he/she’s the right one?” “Where will we meet?”) The all-consuming thought appears to be: “Love me!”
Whomever you are, to experience love is great, but you need to love yourself before you can give love to another. Expand your definition of love from getting to giving. Those who truly love are in service to others, are patient, and are listeners; love is respect. For those already in close personal relationships, remember that the other person does not have to agree with you 100% of the time. Allow one another enough space to have different outlooks, so that you won’t feel intensely that someone has been disloyal or betrayed you when you learn they’ve acted in a manner you didn’t expect.
And this is important: if you’re not in a love relationship with another on February 14th, there’s no need for dismay. While you’re waiting to meet that special someone … if that is what you want … throw yourself into other passions. What is it you love to do? How can you show your love for others? Find that passion and then find a group that shares your feelings. Do you care about the treatment of animals? Volunteer with your local SPCA or another group that assists animals. Love to get out in the yard and garden? Find your local garden club and enjoy learning more about gardening. Plant a vegetable garden and give produce to your local food bank. Books? Book clubs. Cooking? Take a class. The possibilities are limitless. Go where your passion is and – who knows? – you may even find that special person when you least expect it.
And – by the way – I do sincerely wish all of you a happy Valentine’s Day whether you are with someone you love, remembering a special love, or waiting for one to come into your life.